Life as Most Average-Sized People …

-I can be sure that people aren’t embarrassed to be seen with me because of the size of my body.
-If I pick up a magazine or watch TV, I will see bodies that look like mine that aren’t being lampooned, desexualized, or used to signify laziness, ignorance, or lack of self-control.
-When I talk about the size of my body I can be certain that few other people will hope they are never the same size.
-I do not have to be afraid that when I talk to my friends or family they will mention the size of my body in a critical manner, or suggest unsolicited diet products and exercise programs.
-I will not be accused of being emotionally troubled or in psychological denial because of the size of my body.
-I can go home from meetings, classes, and conversations and not feel excluded, fearful, attacked, isolated, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance, stereotyped, or feared because of the size of my body.
-I never have to speak for size acceptance as a movement. My thoughts about my body can be my own with no need for political alliance relative to size.
-I can be sure that when I go to a class, or movie, or restaurant that I will find a place to sit in which I am relatively comfortable.
-I don’t have to worry that if I am talking about feeling of sexual attraction people are repelled or disgusted by the size of my body. People can imagine me in sexual circumstances.
-People won’t ask me why I don’t change the size of my body.
-My masculinity or femininity will not be challenged because of the size of my body.
-I can be sure that if I need medical or legal help my size will not work against me.
-I am not identified by the size of my body.
-I can walk in public with my significant other and not have people double take or stare.
-I can go for months without thinking about or being spoken to about the size of my body.
-I am not grouped because of the size of my body.
-I will never have to sit quietly and listen while other people talk about the ways in which they avoid being my size.
-I don’t have to worry that won’t be hired for a job that I can do because of the size of my body.

1 Comment

  1. Emily said,

    March 19, 2008 at 2:02 pm

    This is a great post. For most of my life, I was an average-sized person, and experienced all of the things you list here. Then I developed anorexia nervosa, and all of a sudden, my size was an issue, and people felt perfectly justified commenting on it. Just a few examples:
    -People asking what my weight was — I thought this was not a question adults asked one another.
    -Having any physical ailment or discomfort blamed on my weight.
    -Having my infertility attributed to my weight without any other causes being explored.
    -People expressing JEALOUSY at my weight, without understanding the mental anguish behind it.
    -People assuming that I don’t have food issues because I’m not overweight.

    So I guess it goes both ways. I’m not saying that people SHOULD have accepted me in my anorexic state — I was clearly ill — but even now that I have restored a healthy weight, people treat me as someone with a “weight problem” or “mental illness” and I often feel I’ll never just be seen as normal again.


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